Well, we’ve managed to have a magnificent week 1 of ‘back to school. The boy has been getting on with his work beautifully and for the most part without argument or even much supervision which is awesome. I’m waiting for the expected refusal to come soon!
Yesterday, we ventured out to the North of our home and met up with a homeschooling social group. For some reason the feeling was immediately different compared to our first attempt at joining an inner city group. Naturally there have been many social experiences since that first one that have allowed my son to gain better skills, but I also wonder whether he just felt more comfortable in this northern setting. Whatever the reason, he ran off immediately and found some kids to join. I approached the group of mums and one dad sitting at a picnic table and introduced myself. There was one person who thought we had met before, but we soon established that it was because she had seen us on the documentary. (I secretly wish I would be recognised more often and that people would talk to me about it.)
All the parents were so lovely and many of them had been homeschooling their children for many years. Such a wealth of experience and information for me to tap into. We stayed there for almost three hours, and during that time, my son only came back to me for about thirty minutes, wanting to play with me. He started getting a little narky with some little boys when they wanted to talk to him while he was playing with me, but to be fair to my son, he did say to the boy very politely, “Ummm… I kind of just want to play with just my Mum right now OK?” Despite that, the little boy was very determined to keep trying to engage my son in conversation and play as they had discovered a shared interest. Sadly my son wasn’t having it as I think at that point, he had reached his threshold of patience having been playing for quite some time with a bunch of other kids. I quietly thanked the little boy for trying to talk to us and then suggested to my son that maybe we should get going.
All in all it was a really lovely afternoon. He played with a wide range of different kids, predominantly boys, and of all different ages, which is really great for him because it meant that he got to see how older ones can be kind and patient with younger ones, and he also noticed that many of the younger ones were just as clever and sensitive as him, some of them even more so! The really great thing was that when his daddy asked him that night whether he’d had a nice time… for the first time EVER after something like that, he answered,
“Yep… they were nice kids.”
“Would you like to go again next week?”
Whoo hoo!!!! I’m not getting too far ahead of myself, but geez he’s been doing well this week! I really really want to get him to a point at the end of this year where we can start trying to get him into group learning situations. Not that I intend for him to go back to regular school, we are more and more convinced that homeschooling is the best option for him, but just so that some of his learning, certain subjects or activities can be enjoyed with a group.
So, we’ll go to social group again next week, and lets hope he continues to have more and more positive experiences.
Tonight we will be reducing his Risperdal dose a little bit again as it’s been a month since the last reduction. Stay tuned for updates on whether the next reduction sees any return of really anxious or aggressive behaviours.