Well, I just finished watching the final episode of the ABC’s “Kids on Speed?”. It all seemed like such a blur to me. I know that it’s really hard to fit all that hard work, counselling sessions, parenting practice, and medication adjusting into three, one hour episodes. I would hope that parents out there seeing the show realise that the changes in Corey weren’t ‘miraculous’, or ‘fast’ necessarily. Before the series started, we had already put in a huge amount of work with Corey and already started seeing a huge difference in his behaviours.
The behaviours displayed on the show were actually a much milder version of how Corey was two years ago. Professor Dadds provided us with the next crucial step we needed in order to get Corey to the next level. He fine tuned our parenting and we are so grateful for that. Prof Kohn found the right medication balance for Corey, and again that is another piece of the puzzle that is Corey back in place.
Watching all that back again, I can really see how far our little man has come. Although he had to stop his Little Ninja’s class the very next term after filming because he was getting really upset with the class, he started tap dancing lessons, and it’s a small class with a teacher who he really loves. He’s succeeding in tap dancing far beyond our expectations. Today he said he’d like to try a ballet class because his teacher told him he has a beautiful ‘turn out’!
He still struggles with school work in terms of just getting started and believing he can do it, so that’s something I spend a lot of time on each day, just getting him to give something a try can take 20 minutes. He usually completes anything in under 15 minutes that would take other kids 30 minutes once he gets started, but then tomorrow, he’ll think he doesn’t know how to do it again!
He listens more. He shows more empathy (towards me at the moment, but that will expand and generalise outwards with time). He is still funny and clever, and he’s just awesome in so many ways.
It’s so important for me and all the families to remember that our journey is ongoing. Our kids are still ‘different’ and we aren’t going to slot them nicely into what society believes they should be. That’s OK. Perhaps one day the world will change to better accommodate kids like ours. Either way, we won’t stop trying, changing, researching and working hard every day to get our kids to the happy life we know they can lead.
The comments I’ve received on Facebook have inspired me to start thinking about ways that I might be able to run talks about our journey. I know that many of the methods I use with Corey will work so well for many people out there, and hey, if they only help one family and one child, then that’s going to mean the whole world to them isn’t it.
So, tonight I’ll head off to bed, very grateful that I had the chance to participate in that documentary for oh so many reasons.